30 comments on “The Double Life of a Melville Cat

  1. Squeak you are a very beautiful boy. I can see you love helping in the garden :) .

    Heather, I had the same thing happen with a dog when I was young – rips you apart a bit :(

    • Thanks Jackie. I guess things will work out somehow and the kitty will wind up wherever he is supposed to be. It’s been nice having him around in the meanwhile, at any rate.

  2. Squeak is such a beautiful boy and the photos of him are stunning! It sounds like he regards your home and garden as part of his territory – and you and Joe as his extended family. When Lucy was young, she often would be away from home for hours on end, and we always joked about “her other family”. I never dreamt that that could actually happen. Hope all works out okay for you all!

    (Thanks for mentioning my blog :-) )

  3. Cute cat, I can imagine how terrible that must feel! We have about 3 cats who regularly come through our yard, one who even slept on the bed for a while. I hope things turn out so you can keep him in your lives!

    • Yes, we’ll see. I don’t know how to ‘share’ a cat with another home! Very difficult situation. I have a feeling Squeak will work this out himself somehow.

  4. If I were Squeak and could get away with having 2 homes who love him then I definitely would! The situation is such a shame though, although I’m pretty sure that he won’t stop visiting as he likes you guys right back!

    You can always be an auntie to Midas and Lulu ;-) they love anyone who loves them. They are very cheap with their emotions……

    I just read your indoor/outdoor article which is well timed for me as the South African’s here cannot believe that Midas and Lulu don’t go out. They just couldn’t in London – they would have been run over or stolen – they are an expensive breed over there. Now we are here I really want to let them in the garden supervised as I know they will love it, but I’m worried about the electric fence. I know Lulu would definitely jump up there, and I think it would be all 9 lives gone in one go!

    • Thanks for reading and commenting, Martina. I would love to meet Midas and Lulu. I want to see them do their business in the toilet!

      It’s funny…I do know one other couple in Melville who keep their cat inside all the time, but they are also American expats. Ha. I totally see both sides of the story. I don’t blame you for fearing the electric fences — I’ve often wondered how all the Jozi cats navigate them, but somehow they all seem to do it. Maybe it’s in their Jozi cat blood :)

  5. What a wonderful and horrible story. I am so sorry for this situation. I hope things can be worked out.Squeak is indeed a truly beautiful cat, and your photos of him are simply wonderful. I hope it ends well for all of you. Squeak obviously loves you and Joe so much. Take care.

    • Thanks Katie, that’s very sweet of you to say. We met Squeak’s owner this afternoon and I think we’re all feeling much more peaceful about things now. More to come! Thanks very much for reading and commenting! Your photography looks beautiful too.

  6. Aww…
    Squeak/Smokey is beautiful – or should I rather say, Handsome!
    I firmly believe that cats adopt humans, and never the other way around. I don’t have the luxury of being able to own a pet, but I invariably get adopted by cats when I am away from home.. I even got adopted by a cat whilst on a long-weekend stay at Loskop Dam!…Maybe it was just that particular chalet was part of his territory :)

    • You certainly seem to be right about cats adopting humans. Especially here in South Africa, and in rural parts of the US (like where I grew up). Cats were always adopting themselves into my parents’ and grandparents’ households when I was growing up.

  7. You can’t really stop a cat from going where it wishes. Cats move on if they want to. Cats in multiple pet homes often tend to leave them for homes where they will be a single pet. They want more from life, like peace and quiet and personal attention, especially when they get older. They don’t want to be picked on. Cats also don’t want to be outdoor cats. Outdoors is not safe place.

    Truth is, if the cat moved in with you, he’d probably still go back to the other house regularly, at least for a few months. But if he didn’t like the other place, he probably wouldn’t go back. That you have to withhold food to get him to return to his owner means you are having to force him back to a place he doesn’t want to be. It’s not a bad place, this other home, but it’s not right for him.

    I know lots of people who share a cat. The cat comes around for a few months, then disappears for a bit. Or maybe it just hang with one family weekends and the other week days. It’s the cat’s choice. My brother’s had a cat like this for years. No idea where it’s “real” family is. But it doesn’t matter. He puts food out. When she doesn’t show up for a week, he takes it in. When she turns up again, he puts it out.

    If a cat doesn’t go back, because he finally makes his choice, you gotta live with that. I know people whose cats have “left them.” The cats got tired of the “drama” and the other pets always being brought in and just left. They didn’t feel wanted. Their needs weren’t being met. Maybe they weren’t getting enough food. Who knows. Were my friends upset when they were “dumped” by their cat? Yeah. But I totally understood the cat’s point of view.

    I’d just put the food back out, it’s your yard you can do what you want. If the cat turns up, fine. If not, fine. The only reason I would stop feeding the cat or keep it out of the house was if there was a specific reason that would be bad for the cat, or any current pets you might have.

    You don’t want to lure a cat across a busy road, for instance. If the cat will be upsetting your current pets, it’s also a bad idea. But other than that, Ms M will just have to accept that she can’t give the cat all he needs all the time and be glad the cat found a good place to hang out.

    A cat is like a person. It goes where it wants. No one ever owns it. If Ms M thinks it won’t find someone else to go to, she’s mistaken. She at least knows who the cat is with! That’s a big plus.

    • Hi Sophia, thanks so much for the thoughtful comment. I think you’re right about many things here. The kitty’s other home is a multiple pet home and he seems to enjoy coming over here where he gets our undivided attention. Also, Joe and I both work from home so he can find us here any time of the day.

      It’s still very early to tell, but I think we MIGHT have worked out an arrangement that makes everyone happy. We just need to wait a few more days to see. Stay tuned for the next kitty post :)

  8. Heather, you should know that the choice is not yours, nor Mrs M’s. It is Squeak’s! A cat will ALWAYS make up its own mind where it wants to be and there is nothing “the owner” can do … Clearly this gorgeous kitty wants to be with YOU! I too have been adopted by a magnificent white cat who squared up to my three German Shepherds with a “make-my-day” expression! As I type she is still in my bed and it is lunchtime …. she had a busy night … caught a bird … my floor is covered in feathers. Like Squeak she has several names ….

    • Thanks so much for the comment, Carrie. I think you’re right that Squeak wants to live here…so much so that he is peeing ALL OVER the house to ensure that no other animal attempts to invade his territory. We’re at our wits’ end! Stay tuned :(

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