Two Men Get Married on the Roof of Johannesburg

by | Dec 22, 2016 | Emotions, Johannesburg, Johannesburg City Centre | 7 comments

This week I went to a wedding at Randlords. The wedding was on Monday, December 19th, which might seem strange. But this is Johannesburg, where a wedding on a Monday evening in late December makes perfect sense.

I felt a little sad the day of the wedding. That same day five years ago, also on a Monday, was the day Jon died.

Just before the wedding, while Ray and I were waiting for an Uber to fetch us, we had a fight about pants. It was a stupid fight and it was my fault. Ray and I talked to the Uber driver on the way to the wedding but we didn’t talk to each other.

Then we arrived at Randlords and took the express elevator to the 22nd floor.

Wedding at RandlordsRandlords is an events venue in Braamfontein. It’s a rad spot for a wedding.

The marriage at Randlords was between two men, Shawn and Rodney. I met Shawn and Rodney in 2012 at the Ansteys Building with their tiny baby, Xavier, who is now a grown-up boy.

Shawn and Rodney met exactly ten years ago — December 19th, 2006 — on a street corner in Washington D.C.

Shawn and Rodney at RandlordsShawn (left) an Rodney (right), on their wedding day, exactly ten years after they met.

 The wedding was awesome, as you might expect, and I cried a lot. The view was awesome too.

View of Braamfontein from RandlordsThe view of Braamfontein and the Jozi CBD from Randlords.

View from RandlordsA similar view, slightly later.

Sunset view from RandlordsStormy sunset.

Lightning strike over Joburg, seen from RandlordsIt stormed all around us all night. I probably watched 200 lightning strikes (although I only caught this one on camera). Somehow it never rained at Randlords.

Ray and I forgot about the pants fight. We said we loved each other and agreed we were happy to live in a country where men can marry men and women can marry women and fabulous weddings can happen on Mondays. We agreed it’s fucking ridiculous this isn’t the case in every country on earth, but that is a topic for another post.

Then we went home in another Uber (sorry we ghosted, Shawn and Rodney — you know how I roll), drank lots of water, and went to sleep.

Wherever Jon is, I know he approves.

Congrats, Shawn and Rodney. Your wedding was rad.


  1. autumnashbough

    That is a very cool spot for a wedding. And very different.

    Yeah, fights are always about stupid things…except they aren’t, really. They’re about something else that has built up. Or maybe that’s just me projecting.

    • 2summers

      Nope, I think you are 100% right.

  2. Liza Munson

    Beautiful post and thoughts. Happy Holidays!

    • 2summers

      Thanks Liza. Happy holidays to you too.

  3. Jaina

    Aww, sorry to hear about the fight. Fighting about the silly things, or what you think are silly, can sometimes be a way of just getting shit out. Things feel better, sometimes, once it’s done, dusted, and forgotten.

    And what a stunning venue for a wedding, the view is gorgeous!

  4. Eugenia Parrish

    Sounds like a wedding was just the right thing to remind you of what’s important and what needs to be aired. And what a handsome couple! Great pictures.

  5. Jessie

    Congrats lovely couple!!! And it warms my heart that they met in my hometown!!!



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