Heather and Smokey photoshoot 3

From the Melville Cat: A Breakup

From the Melville Cat:

I’m writing this post as a favor to Heather. She’s been trying to write it for days — I’ve been watching her — but today she gave up and asked me to do it for her.

Unlike my usual light-hearted feline musings, this is a serious post indeed. Ray does not live in our house anymore.

Heather says it’s a breakup. I wasn’t familiar with this term before and I still don’t understand completely, as nothing is broken as far as I can see. I never saw any pieces of glass on the floor — something I always make sure to scamper away from. I don’t see any cracks in the furniture.

All I know is, there used to be three of us and now there are two.

Smokey looking upA breakup? What exactly do you mean?

It was confusing at first. Heather went away on a trip — she was already sad before she left — and while she was gone Ray carried some things out of the house. He seemed sad, too.

On one particular morning during this time, Ray was very sad indeed. He carried some more things out of the house. I followed him to his car and watched. When Ray finished carrying his things, he pet me and played with me for a very long time.

Finally Ray said goodbye and drove away.

Hours later, long after dark, I heard a car. I knew it would be Heather. I stood at the door, meowing (it was past my dinner time!), and followed Heather inside. As soon as she opened the door she began to cry.

I followed Heather from room to room, meowing while she cried. (Dinner time. Remember?) She sat on the edge of the bed and I sat on the floor, facing her. I kept meowing, not so much because I was hungry anymore but because I didn’t know what else to do. Maybe if I keep meowing, I thought, Heather will stop crying.

Heather stood up, rubbed my head, and went to the kitchen to fix my dinner.

It was then, as I was eating my dinner (finally!), that Heather told me about the breakup. I understood. Ray is not coming back.


Smokey looking angry and sad after the breakupThis is my sad/angry face.

It took me a long time to get used to living with Ray. I confess I made life quite difficult for him early in our relationship. But he worked hard to gain my affection, feeding me catnip and tasty packets of moist, meaty morsels that Heather never fed me before. I grew quite fond of Ray eventually.

Now he is gone. Because of this breakup where nothing actually breaks. At least nothing I can see.

It’s a pity.

Life With a Crazy Cat Lady

As for Heather, I know just how to deal with her.Β I’ve helped Heather through hard times before, when Jon died. Caring for her has always been my most important job — after taking care of myself, of course.

I’m sticking close to Heather during this difficult time. Although the weather has grown warm I still spend my nights indoors, sleeping faithfully at the foot of the bed.

When Heather wakes up during the night, which happens often, she reaches down to pet me and I always give her a reassuring squeak. She still seems very sad. But I’m sure she’ll be back to normal soon.

Fortunately Heather has decided to continue Ray’s habit of feeding me packets of moist, meaty morsels for dinner. For this I am grateful.

Heather says now she can now fulfill her true destiny to become a Crazy Cat Lady.

Crazy Cat Lady? I wasn’t familiar with this term, either.

Heather and Smokey photoshoot 2

Heather and Smokey photoshoot #1

Heather and Smokey photoshoot 3Despite my best efforts to communicate that I was not in the mood for selfies, Heather insisted. How rude. But I guess that’s what Crazy Cat Ladies do.

I think I’m beginning to understand.

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61 Comments

  • Reply Tracy Smith September 20, 2017 at 4:49 pm

    I read your blog every week and it makes me homesick for I am in London and used to live in SA. It does make me smile, or as of now a little sad. There is a terrific article about South Africa’s boxing grannies which may cheer you up https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EhBHK6-Fufk

    • Reply 2summers September 20, 2017 at 5:14 pm

      I just heard about these ladies last week! I need to go check them out. Thanks for the video — it did indeed improve my day.

  • Reply Timmee September 20, 2017 at 4:50 pm

    Love and hugs

    • Reply 2summers September 20, 2017 at 5:15 pm

      Thanks Timmee.

  • Reply momogs September 20, 2017 at 4:59 pm

    Sorry about the breakup. A new chapter begins in your life…

    • Reply 2summers September 20, 2017 at 5:05 pm

      Thanks πŸ™‚

  • Reply Albert September 20, 2017 at 5:05 pm

    Sorry about the breakup. However this was written so well…I very nearly DID think it was the cat writing it. 😁

    • Reply 2summers September 20, 2017 at 5:06 pm

      What do you mean by that. I DID write it 😾

      • Reply Albert September 20, 2017 at 5:47 pm

        Haha. Very creative kitty. Sending lots of hugs

        • Reply 2summers September 20, 2017 at 5:49 pm

          Thanks 😻

  • Reply Margaret Urban September 20, 2017 at 5:13 pm

    Hey Heather. I’m sad you are going through this; I’ve been there ….
    A big hug
    Margaret
    (Currently in Marblehead MA next tochoppy ocean and in the blustery remnants of Jose)
    Hope to see you soon when I’m back in sunny Jozi

    • Reply 2summers September 20, 2017 at 5:17 pm

      Hi Margaret, thanks for the message and I hope all is well in Mass. I guess we’ve all been there at one point or another. Thanks for the support and hope to see you soon. x

  • Reply richard lindsley September 20, 2017 at 5:42 pm

    I’m sure you have, Heather but if you haven’t, I’d recommend a swift read through of The Little Prince.
    Somehow it always talks to me about love and loss.
    I’m glad you have your feline friend !

    • Reply 2summers September 20, 2017 at 6:18 pm

      Wow, it’s been about 30 years since I read that and I think it was in French. Which means I remember absolutely nothing about it. I’ll find a copy πŸ™‚

  • Reply Anriette Esterhuysen September 20, 2017 at 6:03 pm

    Sorry to hear this.. very sad.. for everyone, mostly for you Heather. But you will survive and being a crazy cat lady is actually a wonderful thing to be… especially with such a wonderful cat… thanks for finding such a special way of sharing the story. Hope it makes you feel better and supported.

    • Reply 2summers September 20, 2017 at 6:17 pm

      Thanks Anriette. And who am I kidding, anyway? I became a crazy cat lady long ago πŸ™‚

  • Reply Gail Scott Wilson September 20, 2017 at 6:05 pm

    I love this, the way the Melville cat puts it, is sad yet one can almost feel the real comfort you are giving Heather. Maybe a book written by you the Melville Cat will ensure total healing for Heather.

    • Reply 2summers September 20, 2017 at 6:17 pm

      I think the Melville Cat’s book-writing day is drawing closer…

  • Reply autumnashbough September 20, 2017 at 6:07 pm

    Good job, MC. You are doing all the right things. Take good care of Heather and also yourself.

    But look out. Crazy Cat Lady means you will be getting at least one new roommate. A feline one. HIIIISSSS.

    Give Heather a nice head butt for me. Her heart is broken on the inside, and unlike a broken glass, she can’t get a new one. It’ll take a little time — or maybe a lot of time — to heal.

    But at least she won’t have to clean up after him anymore?

    • Reply 2summers September 20, 2017 at 6:14 pm

      I have noticed that the house is much cleaner lately…

      • Reply autumnashbough September 20, 2017 at 7:13 pm

        You take your silver linings where you can. Things to look forward to: not shaving your legs, not shaving your armpits, eating all the garlic…

        • Reply 2summers September 20, 2017 at 7:27 pm

          Yes yes yes.

          • durbanroots October 19, 2017 at 4:47 pm

            And growing even stronger and wiser!

          • 2summers October 19, 2017 at 4:51 pm

            😊

  • Reply Rosemary September 20, 2017 at 6:43 pm

    You are both looking very well all the same – lovely pictures😎

    • Reply 2summers September 20, 2017 at 6:52 pm

      Thank you!

  • Reply Lara De Matos September 20, 2017 at 6:50 pm

    Thinking of you!! It’s a kak thing, and takes time. Also just a little harder (and on the flip side better) when it’s something you have shared with a large group of near strangers. Been there!

    • Reply 2summers September 20, 2017 at 6:51 pm

      Haha, yes that’s true. Blogging is a blessing and a curse in this regard. But I’m lucky to have a cat who writes very well about these things.

  • Reply Brenda Reiss September 20, 2017 at 7:27 pm

    Hi there Melville kitty! You write so well! Especially for someone with claws…..so hard to type. I am sure you will do everything you can to help Heather while you write your book…..and do write it!
    I hate to mention it, but you might want to discourage the Cat Lady thing….that usually means, ahem!, multiple cats. Somehow, I think you are Top Cat and you’d like to keep it that way. (Well, maybe one other young ‘un you can boss around?)
    Anyway, give Heather some special purrs and tell here this US reader just loves her blog, especially the positive, chipper tone she usually has about Jhb….I usually hear some pretty gloomy stuff from SA expats here.

    • Reply 2summers September 20, 2017 at 7:28 pm

      Thank you Brenda. I will tell her. Surely she will NOT be that kind of cat lady. I am indeed born to be a solo cat.

  • Reply mvschulze September 20, 2017 at 8:09 pm

    To MC: Sandy Paws (she refuses to type herself…) says she wanted me to convey her sorrow for both you and Heather. Me Too. M πŸ™

    • Reply 2summers September 20, 2017 at 8:18 pm

      Thank you Sandy Paws! I will relay the message 😻

  • Reply Ellen September 20, 2017 at 10:52 pm

    Dear Melville cat, thanks for letting me know about Ray leaving. I feel badly for Heather. Give her my love and a few extra licks, and tell her “this too shall pass”.
    Ellen

    • Reply 2summers September 21, 2017 at 8:18 am

      Thank you, Auntie Ellen. xoxo

  • Reply Eva Melusine Thieme September 21, 2017 at 4:25 am

    Sometimes the best stories come out of the worst breakups. I guess I’m thinking Abba and their songs after, not sure why that’s the first thing that comes to mind. The Melville Cat put this really well and I know you’ll bounce back. But first it’s time to be sad. I’m sorry!

    • Reply 2summers September 21, 2017 at 8:17 am

      Thanks Sine. Maybe the Melville Cat will become a songwriter.

      • Reply Eva Melusine Thieme September 21, 2017 at 8:41 pm

        That sounds very possible! I’ll be waiting for his first release.

  • Reply UnderAnAfricanSun September 21, 2017 at 6:49 am

    Sorry about the difficult times. Melville cat, I am glad you are taking good care of Heather. Hugs to you both.

    • Reply 2summers September 21, 2017 at 8:17 am

      Thanks Kelly. xx

  • Reply Elle September 21, 2017 at 9:23 am

    😿 sorry to hear this pusthycat leddi….

  • Reply eremophila September 21, 2017 at 9:32 am

    Thanks MC. Sometimes life is like your raspy tongue – means well but is very rough at times. But does what it needs to. Hugs.

    • Reply 2summers September 21, 2017 at 1:35 pm

      That’s very true. Rough tongues can be okay sometimes πŸ™‚

  • Reply Maureen Mauzie Anderson September 21, 2017 at 9:37 am

    So sorry to read about your breakup Heather, but look on the bright side…..much more time to spend with the beautiful Mellville cat and no more cleaning up after a man and all the woes that go along with being in a relationship. I’ve been single for 4 years now which has meant 4 beautiful dedicated years to my x 4 feline companions (used to be 5 but sadly Lucky girl passed in January 2016). Many people are in and out of relationships throughout their lifetime and heartache is sad at first but you will feel better with each day that passes. Live life for yourself, be happy and enjoy the single life. It can be very rewarding. Hugs to you and your precious cat xoxo

    • Reply 2summers September 21, 2017 at 1:35 pm

      Thanks so much Maureen. I’ve certainly been there before…just takes a bit of an attitude adjustment πŸ™‚

  • Reply Nancy Anne McDaniel September 21, 2017 at 1:27 pm

    I don’t even know you and I’m sad for you, Heather. Glad you still have TheMelvilleCat to be your pal
    Sending warmest wishes from Chicago,
    Nancy

    • Reply 2summers September 21, 2017 at 1:34 pm

      Thank you πŸ™‚

  • Reply Di Brown September 21, 2017 at 3:53 pm

    I am so glad Heather has you to ease her passage through this part of her journey. So Mr Melville Cat, King of Melville and Lord of all Cats in the Universe, please be extra nice to Heather, not too aloof and tolerate lots of cuddles from her. Just for a while. XXX

    • Reply 2summers September 21, 2017 at 3:55 pm

      I will do that. Meow.

  • Reply Jaina September 21, 2017 at 10:17 pm

    Oh Heather, I’m sorry to hear about this πŸ™ New chapter, new start, and all that jazz. You’re a strong woman who I know will be just fine. If not now, soon πŸ™‚ xx

    • Reply 2summers September 24, 2017 at 1:53 pm

      Thanks Jaina ❀️

  • Reply catherine September 26, 2017 at 9:50 am

    Just wanted to tell you that you have been on my mind a lot these past few days even though we have never met, I feel that I do know you in a way, and the Melville cat as well, after following your blog for so many years….life brings us good times and not so good times, as you well know, keep on exploring and happiness will visit you again soon.Hugs from an unknown friend in Geneva.

    • Reply 2summers September 26, 2017 at 9:55 am

      Thank you so much Catherine ❀️

  • Reply Shasha October 4, 2017 at 9:41 am

    Am sad about the break up,Kitty please take good care of Heather for me. Sending many hugs

    • Reply 2summers October 4, 2017 at 9:42 am

      Thank you Shasha. I will.

  • Reply Paula October 13, 2017 at 8:24 pm

    Love to you both ❀️😘❀️

    • Reply 2summers October 13, 2017 at 8:26 pm

      Thanks Paula 😍

  • Reply Florence ngobeni allen October 15, 2017 at 1:30 pm

    I wish was there for you like you’ve always been there for me❀

    • Reply 2summers October 15, 2017 at 1:59 pm

      Oh Flo, I wish that too! πŸ’—

  • Reply Lani October 18, 2017 at 7:26 am

    Ugh. Sorry I missed such an important post. And what a clever way to do it.

    Ahhh, breakups. What hasn’t been said that has been said before?

    You’ll live.

    Hmmm. Ever so gentle, Lani.

    One day at a time.

    As opposed to???

    Go out there and get yourself some booty?

    xxoo

    • Reply 2summers October 18, 2017 at 7:30 am

      Hahahaha. I’m on board with all of those except for the last one πŸ˜‚

      • Reply Lani October 18, 2017 at 7:32 am

        Well…never try, never know! πŸ˜€

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